January Blues
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5 Reasons for the January Blues and How to Overcome Them

There’s a reason why it’s called the January blues. Here are 5 things that get us all down during January and what you can do to feel better about them.

After all of the Christmas festivities, January blows in with a cold wind. It’s long, tedious, we’re all skint, and it feels like there is nothing to look forward to.

But why is this time of year so tricky, and what simple things can you do together as a couple to bring some cheer to the dark days of January?

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1. It’s boring

January comes along after the build-up to Christmas, and slam dunks us back down to earth. After over-indulging during December, January can feel like one long hangover. Let’s face it, nothing exciting happens during January.

How to make it less boring:

  • Book a date night at home. Make a meal together and get dressed up.
  • Crack open the latest box set or catch up on that Christmas TV you didn’t get time to watch.
  • Go for long wintery walks, and remember to take a flask of hot chocolate
  • Take the time to relax together, read books or listen to some favourite music.
  • If you have kids, plan a family evening together. Play games or watch a movie together with some homemade popcorn.

2. It’s been so long since payday!

Getting paid early for Christmas is welcome at the time, but as we crawl our way through January, we start to notice how empty our bank accounts are.

Money is one of the biggest reasons that couples argue, and so it’s understandable that January is a key time for partners to fall out over money worries.

Dealing with short term money issues

If money is a long term problem for you and not just during January, make sure that you speak to a debt advisory service like Citizen’s advice. Remember, you shouldn’t have to pay for debt advice, so be sure you talk to an agency that offers their services for free.

If you are feeling the pinch temporarily, it’s time to get creative.

  • Resist the urge for takeaways and restaurants and cook from scratch at home. It will also give you something to do during the dark evenings.
  • Take the time to go through the house and see if there is anything you can sell on eBay or through local selling sites on Facebook. 
  • Visit Money Saving Expert for loads of great money-saving tips and deals.

3. The Weather is Awful

“The shortest day has passed, and whatever nastiness of weather we may look forward to in January and February, at least we notice that the days are getting longer.”

Vita Sackville-West

If you are reading this in the UK in January, the chances are that it’s cold, wet and miserable. The weather can also affect our mood and health, the most common being SAD or Seasonal Affective Disorder. 

If you are going out to work or school, it will most likely be dark when you leave the house and get home in the evening.

But even without SAD, the weather can still make us feel low, especially if the weather prevents us from participating in outdoor activities.

The trick is to embrace it. We can’t control the weather, so instead, use it as a time to catch up with friends online or cuddle up together and watch a movie or box sets – thank goodness for box sets!

  • Make the most of any dry weather. Wrap up warm and get outside, even if it’s just for 15 minutes.
  • Try an indoor physical activity like Yoga. There are plenty of free lessons online.

4. New Year Resolutions

Have you ever set a New Year Resolution and stuck to it for a whole year? If you have, congratulations, as you are probably in the minority.

Failing to stick to our New Year Resolutions can leave us feeling low and lacking self-esteem. Instead, try a goal setting exercise.

The difference with setting goals is you can set them incrementally. For example, if you want to lose weight, you can set small goals throughout the year.

Try these goals setting exercises by Psychologist Phil Dobson

5. Dry January

Who decided that dry January was a good idea? Surely the only way to get through January is to have a glass of wine here and there?

But seriously, if you are doing dry January, here’s a round-up of some of the best non-alcoholic drinks on the market.


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